Everyone has doubts. Especially women. And especially if they need to make a very important decision. Choosing a life partner is one of those decisions. So it’s completely okay to feel unsure about the person you are willing to spend the rest of your life with.
There is a huge difference between falling in love and building a relationship with someone. He could be a good guy in general but when it comes to a more serious relationship you start looking for some additional qualities in this person. It’s not only about whether he’ll make a great husband or not, but also about your own feelings and whether you’ll be able to keep it the same and bring your love through the years.
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So, if you want to be sure and find an answer to the question “Do I really love this person?” just ask yourself these 3 simple questions.
Would you be friends?
Would you be still interested in this person without any sexual relationship? Love is not only about passion and sexual chemistry. Love is more about how your personalities match together. If you can spend hours talking about arts, or sports, or some other topics you both are interested in, it’s a good sign for your relationship. Most of the strongest relationships and love stories started from friendship and it’s a very important quality in your future partner.
Just think, would you feel the same about him if there won’t be any hugs, kisses, and sex? You know that you love him when you see him not only as your lover but also as your friend and life partner.
Would you accept his flaws?
Of course, everyone has their flaws. And it’s completely normal that your partner may have some qualities or habits that you don’t like. But the question is – would you be able to accept it?
A lot of women think that when they start a family (or simply a long-term relationship) they’ll be able to change their partner, make him better and fix his bad qualities. But what if that’ll never happen? What if you won’t change him and his habits? Would your feelings change? Would you love him the same? If you are able to accept him with all his flaws, this is one of the most important signs that you really love him.
Do you respect him?
Do you really respect him? His thought? Judgements? Dreams? Life goals?
When you’ll answer this question, you’ll understand if you really love him as a person without the relationship you have. Respect is a very important part of any relationships because it shows your feelings to this person and helps you understand if you would be able to spend the rest of your life (or at least a few years) with this person or not.
Sometimes love could be unlogical and unpredictable. And sometimes you just love him no matter what. If you’re in love, you just need to follow your heart and your feelings. But if you want to build a strong and long-term relationship with him, you need to be more reasonable and thoughtful about your feelings. At the end of the day, love is important but it’s not the essential part of a healthy relationship.