Do you find that you are finally in a friendly place with your ex? Does it make life so much easier for the two of you to be able to talk to each other again? Do you wonder why more people don’t stay in touch with their exes? The truth is that being friends with your ex may not actually be a good idea. Though you may wish to move forward in a friendly way, it may actually hold you back from finding love in the future. Sad but true, staying in touch with somebody that you were once romantically linked to may prove to be a bad idea all around!
Even if the breakup was mutual or you are friendly with one another, you might want to reconsider staying close. It’s one thing if you have a mutual group of friends, but even then you may want to try to limit your exposure to one another. Though you may feel as if you have moved on, staying close to them may hurt you in the long run. If you still need convincing, then here are the reasons why staying friends with an ex may prove to be a very bad idea in the end.
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You may never be able to completely move on
You probably don’t see it because you’re so close to it and you probably think that being friends is actually a mature decision on both of your parts. The problem is that you may never be able to fully move on if they are in your life. They are keeping you from finding love or moving forward with your life, even if it’s in an indirect way. Though you might think of it as harmless if they are present in your life, they may inadvertently be keeping you from moving on with your love life.
There can be a lot of jealousy between the two of you
There will come a time where you start to see other people. When you go out on those dates there may exist a certain jealousy between the two of you that you didn’t even know existed. You might feel it or see that they exhibit it and this isn’t healthy. Even if you feel that you have both moved on, when you start to date others that jealousy can come out and hold you both back in a really negative way.
You may always wonder what they are thinking or feeling
Everybody wants to be loved or thought about. So even if it feels as though life has moved on, you are naturally going to wonder what they are thinking. You may find yourself thinking of them involuntarily and wonder why that’s happening. You may find yourself wishing that you were still together or seeing them act this way. No matter what the reality is that you are always going to be thinking about them or vice versa, and this holds you back big time.
Their observation of your life may hold you back from experiencing true joy
It may be an innocent Facebook post that sets them off. It might be a picture that they see of you enjoying your life that makes them miss you even more. You might not think much of the things that you say or do, but it can make them want you back and you might not want that. If you keep some distance and try to both move on independently this may serve you well and give you both time to heal so that you can enjoy what’s next in your life.