Should I kiss her or not? This is the question running through the mind of every man on the first date. Though there isn’t necessarily one right or wrong answer, there are a few things to keep in mind. You want this first kiss to be special because you believe that she’s going to judge you based upon how this goes. If you play it right this kiss could lead to a next date—but if you don’t put any thought into it, then it could sabotage your plans right then and there!
You don’t want to go in with that added pressure on you, but you do want to have some thoughts about it before you just do it. Get a sense for what type of person she is and what she’s all about. She may give you signs such as eye contact, smiles, and even gentle touch so tune into them. Oftentimes body language can tell you all that you need to know, and can ultimately show you that you are in a position to kiss her or not. If it feels as though the two of you are connecting then, by all means, a first kiss can be a great thing. If, however, you are not feeling it or you think that she’s a bit more “off limits” then save it for the next date.
This is where you as a man have to be observant, tune into what she’s telling you even with her body language, and then make the right decision. If you play this right it can really work to your advantage and tell her all she needs to know about you in a really positive way!
Be sure that she’s giving you signs that she’s actually interested
If she seems quieter or if she is a bit more the type that keeps to herself then you may want to hold off on the kiss. If however, she is outgoing, she seems into you, and she keeps leaning in closer or showing you with her body language that she likes you, then go for it. Be sure that there are some signs there that she wants to be kissed, and this means being observant above anything else. If you can learn to really read a woman then you will know for sure. So be certain that she’s telling you that this is something she’s actually interested in before you try to kiss her.
Be subtle and never be overbearing
You don’t want your kiss to send the wrong message such as you’re conceited or that you take over. You want the two of you to meet halfway at the right moment and therefore let the kiss be an extension of a great first date. If you can find a way to let this happen and let that kiss speak for itself, then it will win her over. Be sure that you are in the right place for it such as the door right before you drop her off. Don’t come on too strong and know that she’s looking for your approach just as much as what your kiss says in its technique.
Be brief, gentle, sensitive, and let your kiss be the entryway to a great connection
Your kiss is going to tell her a story, so be aware of what’s going on! If you don’t let her come up for air, if you try too hard, or if you completely take her over then it will work against you as a big turn off. If however, she feels that you are gentle and compassionate, she will absolutely love this. She wants to see that you’re a nice guy through your kiss. Keep it brief and leave her wanting to get to know you more—and this can be the perfect entry point into a second date and even more kisses!
Read also: 5 Tips How to Kiss Like a Pro
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