You don’t know why you personal life leaves much to be desired? Maybe you do something wrong? When something in our life is not going the way it should we tend to blame everyone but not ourselves. Just stop and think – what if it’s you who spoils your own relationships?
We don’t want to become emotionally dependable. If you’ve got the experience of being dumped or cheated on, then you probably don’t want enter new relationships at once. Yes, breaking up sucks – it ruins our life and our emotional connection with the partner. And of course in order to avoid this happen again we try to protect ourselves by closing our hearts for new feelings. Time really heals, and one day when you realize that not all people are the same and that not all of them are dreaming of breaking your heart again you’ll see how happy you can become again.
We don’t want to be controlled. Sometimes we treat our partners as if they are our property, forgetting about their feelings, needs and desires. But real love presupposes putting our partners’ issues in the first place. Don’t you want to make your girlfriend/boyfriend happy? What can compare to seeing a smiling face of your one and only? Relationship is a difficult thing and it’s absolutely impossible to maintain without compromising. Don’t worry when you find your soulmate meeting on halfway will become natural for both of you.
We are afraid our partner will soon lose his/her interest. Here I should say that this fear is more about you, but not your would-be partner. People who can’t maintain long-term relationships because they quickly lose interest to people are more likely to expect the same from others. If you treat dating like a game where you are to prove your superiority over other participants you are unlikely to succeed in finding your soulmate. True love has neither rules nor time limits. And be sure if you really meet your one and only, you’ll feel it and obviously won’t lose your interest.