Do you think it’s easy to spot a passive-aggressive person around you? You may be totally in love but still sense that something wrong is going on.
The numerous examples show that it is essential not only for your relationship but just for yourself as well to recognize and remove this passive-aggressive person from your life.
So, if you are getting conscious about your partner’s behavior and want to be sure in your relationship in the future, here are 5 the most important signs that you are dating a passive-aggressive person.
He never asks your opinion
All decisions in this relationship are made by him. Even the weirdest ones, like what dress you should wear or where you’ll spend the next weekend (and all other weekends).
As it was said so many times before, communication between the partners is the key to a happy and successful relationship. If he keeps ignoring you and puts his opinion first without caring about your feelings, it’s not a sign of a healthy relationship.
There is a stereotype that this kind of behavior is the sign of a strong men’s personality. For some women, the way their man takes all the responsibility for their relationship and make all the decisions is what they secretly desire. However, there is a line between being responsible and becoming abusive and aggressive. If you start thinking that this might be your case, check some other sings of a passive-aggressive person.
He is being sarcastic (read: being offensive)
He makes offensive comments and jokes and when you’re trying to show him that you are hurt, he says that he is just being sarcastic. It might that he has a bad sense of humor or you never actually told him that you are offended by his jokes. Though, deep inside you know that it’s not normal and these kinds of jokes are not what you want to keep in your relationship.
The only solution here is to talk to him clearly. Explain your feelings and tell him how do you want his behavior to change. The difference between a normal and a passive-aggressive person is that a good partner would consider your opinion and make a conclusion from this talk. If he really loves you and knows that this kind of behavior hurts you, he would never act like this again.
He is blaming you unreasonably
As easy he offends you with his jokes as easy he gets offended himself. Any action of yours may lead to him being insulted. He finds a problem even where everything is okay and he blames you for that.
There was huge traffic; his lunch wasn’t good enough, or maybe his boss was unsatisfied with his work. For all these, you would probably be the one to blame. Sounds ridiculous? Though, it’s true. He finds more and more reasons to make you feel guilty and that’s how he starts dominating over you.
He has a fear of you leaving him
Sometimes he acts like he doesn’t love you at all but, actually, one of the reasons for that is his fear of losing you. He is so in love with you that he will do everything to keep you close. He becomes so obsessive about the idea of you leaving him that he starts losing control and becomes abusive. In fact, he may not even understand that he is that passive-aggressive person in your couple. He may even promise you that he will change and your relationship will be better. It’s not that you can’t trust him at all but if you’ve already realized what his behavior means, you need to beware all the time you are around him.
He has ever abused you physically or mentally
Well, basically, most of the cases above are examples of emotional abuse. You don’t have to underestimate this part of the relationship with a passive-aggressive person as it’s what helps their “illness” to grow even more. If you feel dependent on him, be sure, he feels it too. And he will use it against you.
Any kind of physical or emotional abuse is a huge sign that you are dating a passive-aggressive person. And if you feel uncomfortable in this relationship, maybe it’s better for you to end it instantly.
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