No matter how much you love each other, sometimes there are times in a relationship when you feel like your partner doesn’t understand you.
Misunderstanding is a very common problem not only for young couples but also for long-lasting or married couples. But actually, there are only 3 simple steps that will finally rid you of misunderstanding in your relationship and will only make your love stronger.
Try using ‘and’ instead of ‘but’
This rule would definitely change the way you communicate with your partner. Instead of fighting with words, make your communication process look more like cooperation. And you will see the difference in your relationship pretty soon.
Wrong: I understand what you are saying, but you need to listen to me.
Right: I understand what you are saying and I want you to understand me.
Don’t criticize compliments
Being negative all the time, even when someone is telling you a compliment, will certainly ruin your relationship. If you really want to praise someone, try not to mix compliments with criticism.
Wrong: The meal was delicious, unlike yesterday.
Right: The meal was delicious, thank you!
When you talk about your wishes cut out “don’t“ and ”won’t.”
Using words with a negative meaning like “don’t” and “won’t” has a bad psychological effect on your relationship. Especially when you talk about your wishes. Try to use sentences that won’t sound like you are prohibiting something to your partner.
Wrong: I don’t want you to control me.
Right: I want you to trust me.
These rules may look simple at first, but in fact, it will take a long time to get used to them and see them working. But be patient. Applying these rules into your life is totally worth it!