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Scot, 54
United States, New York, Lake Grove

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About Me

I'm looking for someone that confidently knows where they've been, where they are, and of course where they WANT to be. At 54, I can't and won't participate in the head games and silliness that might have been considered acceptable and "normal" when we were in our late teens and twenties. I like to think that the challenges, successes, and yes some failures up to now have provided me with the intelligence to know what and who's right for me.I take mutual respect, honesty, and commitment VERY seriously. If these basic but essential traits aren't present from the very beginning of a relationship, well there is no relationship.Once I connect with someone, I tend to put their needs and feelings ahead of my own. Some say I'm very foolish to do so - some actually resent it (not sure I understand that though), but when I'm truly connected with someone - I can't help but give them everything I can (and no, I'm not just talking material things), and I would hope they would want to reciprocate. In that same vein, I'm emotionally and financially stable and I typically live accordingly. I'm looking for someone that enjoys and is eager to experience new things but knows how to savor the favorites. I enjoy making last minute plans, jumping in the car and doing something that I've always said "I'd like to do that some day". Sort of a bucket list without the bucket.Although I'm not a sports or exercise fanatic, I do admire folks that take fitness very seriously, but religiously spending inordinate amounts of time at a gym is just not for me. I want to be out, taking in everything I can, building memories *** muscles. I enjoy long walks/hikes (yes, on and off the beach), rain or shine. Adventure makes the adrenaline flow and when there's two of us it flows twice as heavily.I guess I have some doubts about on line dating being able to actually find that special person. Conversely, I'm just not into sitting in a bar hitting on women that have no interest in developing a real relationship; or that have a hidden or bizarre agenda. I'm definitely NOT into any one-nighter kind of thing. I firmly believe that a strong mutual commitment with the right person is essential for a great long term relationship. Holding hands, hugging, snuggling - you know what I mean. Just being close to someone that you truly care for (emotionally, mentally, and physically) is a real head rush for me and hopefully for you too.Friends consider me easy going and certainly easy to be with. If you have to make a concerted effort just to "be" with someone, it may be time to start looking again.I DON'T sport any body armor, tattoo's, piercings, or anything mother nature didn't do herself, nor do I have a motorcycle or a boat. I'm not into facial hair (including beard, mustache, ear, or nose) other than the occasional 5 o'clock shadow. My pix are all recent and I would hope yours are as well. Pen Pals are great but I'm looking for a relationship that if appropriate, can eventually go beyond ***, texting, and voice calls. In all seriousness, I'm NOT interested in an extended distance relationship as I'm looking for a true long term relationship. While the "; story is very touching and romantic it just won't work for me.- I doubt our relationship could go beyond rather brief pen-pals and that's just not what I'm interested in. Best of luck with your search. More like a first meeting... as new acquaintances ... a quiet coffee shop or local pub, early evening, enjoying coffee or an adult beverage. No expectations, no pressure, no assumptions. Just two people exploring a potential future.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    woman

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Slim

  • Height

    5'8"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

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