You have taken the time to talk to each other before you ever meet. You may have been set up, you may have met through online dating site, or you may have met by chance. You didn’t jump into things though, as you’ve taken the time to talk over email or phone and establish that comfortable foundation early on. This is going to pay off big time!
Though you are both still nervous about that first meeting, you somehow feel a bit calmer than you usually would. You both want to put your best foot forward, and so you spend a little extra time on your appearance. You think of how you look, but also how you come across in terms of your personality and best traits. You have a good feeling about this, and so you exude confidence before you even get there.
It’s All about Setting the Tone Early on
You meet at an agreed upon public spot, just for a couple of drinks and appetizers. It’s not a formal dinner, it’s nothing fancy or elaborate, but rather just a place that you both feel comfortable at. You aren’t eating or drinking too much, but just enough to allow the conversation to flow while you are in a spot that is mutually comfortable. The right mood is set based on picking this spot together, and keeping it light and easy with the plans of the evening.
When you meet up there you both feel excited, happy, and somehow at ease. You are ready for this and you feel like you somehow know each other. He brought you a single long stem rose, just to make you smile. You hug each other when you meet as it feels familiar and like you’ve been talking to each other for years. This is how you continue to keep things light, but taking the time to talk to each other and get to know each other in advance really pays off.
From here on out for the remainder of the date, it’s really all about the conversation. It’s flowing easily, it’s a good mutual sharing session, and you could sit here all night. You are both in control and aren’t overdoing it with drinking or talking too much — but you are shocked when you realize that three hours has passed in what seems like minutes. You realize that maybe you should cut things short at this point, but you still keep talking because you’re really having so much fun.
When the date is over, he walks you to your car and you share a gentle first kiss. He doesn’t try to take things any further, and you don’t throw yourself at him. He says he’d love to see you again, and you agree. There’s a good closing, and you both leave smiling. He texts you later on that evening to tell you how much he enjoyed the date — and you know that this is the beginning of something great.