Being involved in online dating means that it’ll be easy for you to get caught up in a chat and become overly interested in being nice. If you’ve simply been being polite while chatting with someone, but they’re interested in more, you’re faced with a difficult task. Is there an easy way to say “I’m just not interested?” Not really.
The best advice we can give you is to just be honest. It’s much better to be honest early on than to go out with someone just because you’re “guilted” into it or just want to be nice. We’re relatively sure that you wouldn’t want someone to go out with you just to be nice. Why waste the time.
When turning someone down for a date, focus on what you don’t have in common. Explain to them that you just don’t like hanging out in smoky bars like they do and it just wouldn’t be a fun time in your eyes.
The same applies if you don’t get a phone call or email for a second date. Often men think they’re supposed to wait awhile before calling a woman for a second date. This is rude, but for women, you need to realize that maybe he’s just not that into you.
Calling him up and expressing your rage at his rudeness is just plain wrong. It can cause you to have a bad reputation and result in added stress that you just don’t need. There are hundreds of others online that you try to connect with. Get back out there and shake it off.
Alternatively, men, you should be aware that just because a woman shows a little interest, she might be faking it. Many women find it difficult to turn a man down for a date or a second date, but if she’s honest with you, accept it and move on. Perhaps – on the flip side – she’s just not that into you!
Don’t string someone along just because you’re too polite to say no. It’s better to be honest and move along rather than waste anymore time with someone you know you won’t be compatible with.