If you have been dating for a while, then you know that there are certain elements required for being successful. Though every day is most certainly different, the reality is that you have to put forth certain effort to make things work. One such thing that is essential for your dating success is mastering good body language. If you play it right, you can speak volumes all without saying a word at all. If you want to put yourself out there you have to know how to speak without uttering words. And this can take you much further than anything you might say.
It’s not easy at first to truly grasp just how important body language can be, but try it for a while and see how it plays out. Body language can help you to grab the attention of the person you’re interested in across a crowded room. It can help to show that you are approachable and may help you with a multitude of personal issues. Though we tend to focus so much on our conversations, body language can actually be much more effective in the long run. It’s worth a try and it takes very little effort on your part, so why not go for it?
This means that you are in control of what you are saying with your body and you put yourself out there. This isn’t to be confused with being promiscuous, but it does mean that you are the type of person that makes somebody feel comfortable with on a first date. And for which others want to really get to know too!
1. Learn the power of a well-placed smile
It’s been said time and time again and yet so few of us actually believe it and go for it—a smile means everything! A smile says you are positive, you are intriguing, and that you are somebody worth getting to know. It can put somebody at ease on a first date and can help to win them over. There is so much to gain by smiling and yet we let our nerves take over and win out. Don’t let this happen, just keep smiling and see how well this can work for you on the all important first date!
2. Be sure that you appear open, eager, and approachable
You want to be aware of how you are standing because this factors into the big picture. Never stand with your arms crossed over your chest. Try to remain open even with the way that you position yourself as you stand or sit at a table. The simple fact that you put thought into this will speak volumes to your date. Why? They will see that you are easy to talk to and therefore it helps to set a really positive tone. All without ever saying an actual word!
3. Maintain eye contact to show focus and interest
If you keep your eyes down, then you come up as closed off and maybe even conceited, which is probably the exact opposite of who you are. Instead, you want to look this person in the eye and really maintain the right level of eye contact. You want to show that you are interested in what they have to say and that you care. Eye contact can do just that. Don’t lose your way with this, for it’s very simple to just look up and into the eyes of this person you are talking to.
4. Close the gap and know what makes for a well placed gentle touch:
Make sure you aren’t standing too far away, for it can come off as out of reach. Know that a simple touch on the arm or shoulder can really tell them that you are interested in them. It’s all about subtlety and therefore just standing closer to them can help them to want to meet you halfway and read what you are saying to them with just your body language alone.
Making that great first impression is important; but when about 70 percent of what you say is unsaid, you should know your body language speaks louder than words. Having the wrong body language can squash your chances at a great first date.