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Dena, 51
United States, California, Carlsbad

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About Me

Hello..and welcome to my profile. Yes..its a longer one..but I think being clear on who I am, and who I am looking for saves us both time. You have a fairly good idea if you want to contact me. :-)All my pics are very recent...some within the last few months, all within the last year or so. Please make your pics recent too. :-)"We did not change as we became older...we just became more clearly ourselves". Lynn Hall"Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength." Betty Friedan ***"When we tune into the essence of joy within us, rather then either avoiding the pain or seeking joy from external situations, we become our own beacon of light. We have a smile that cant be shaken." Sherry Bezanson"The whole secret to existence is to have no fear."~ BuddhaA few of the lessons life has taught me so far: you've got to roll with it :***the punches)...have a plan B and C when plans fall through, and live life to the fullest each day, even if one is riding solo. Aspire to become fearless, not reckless, but fearless. Find wonder (little miracles are all around us) and humour in the everyday, and treat yourself well.How would I envision the man for me? my one and only?Looking for an enlightened guy...he has learned many lessons but knows there are an infinite number yet to learn. He knows that a good relationship is based on a deep friendship...and that is where we would start. He smiles easily because, like me, he gets it. (When you get it...life becomes easier...because you know everything is meant to be..and you exhale.) He is happy within himself.He knows life is made up of moments, and he treasures the little things. He is practical and likes to fix and or create(even if only with words...or music.) He considers himself even tempered and his emotional baggage is stored appropriately. He knows his own personal power..he has 'grown up', and he doesnt need to come on heavy. Hes all about exploring life but loves his down time and doesnt have a problem with just chilling, reading or chatting sometimes. Hes an optimist..a positive person; he loves to laugh, even at himself at times, but can be serious too when he ponders about why things are they way they are and he figures there could just be more to THIS life then what we can see. He uses his brain as much as his hands...an intelligent man is a turn-on! :-) He has an affinity with animals (like me, he most likely owns a dog) and he has had children, as I think having the responsibility and challenges of raising kids, especially on ones own, takes a person to a different level. He has lived enough that he knows who he is...what he stands for(so he wouldnt fall for just anything)...and he would call himself sincere. He, like me, knows good communication is vital to the success of any relationship, and conversely, lack there of, leads to its demise. Communication is HUGE for me.The trials and tribulations in his past have made him the man that he is today, as we are all the accumulative sum of all our past experiences. A complex past that he has grown from and moved forward from is ideal. After all, 'adversity is the stepping stone to greatness!'He is independent yet wants a true partner, a monogamous relationship, someone with which to multiply the joys and divide the sorrows.Me?I am a single mum born of European parents, with a full time long term technical career; my one and only child a son, is 20 and is a mature young man living on his own, but still likes to check in with Mom about the important stuff. I am goofy and fun, but I am wise, the kind of wise that comes with embracing all of my past challenges; I see many facets to one thing or one concept. I like to stay active in both body (walking my dog, time at the gym, swimming..gotta back to yoga) and mind. I LOVE to read ..nose in book frequently!! (My departed Mother read until the day she died..and was as smart as a whip!) At least one book a month.. more if they are page turners (lately its one book a week), & research anything that is of interest to me. I love the Arts but also Science.(The higher you go...the more these two intertwine) I would like to learn something every day for the rest of my life. I see the BIGGER picture..and am fully aware that I am a spirit living a physical existence to learn what I need to in this lifetime. I believe in being optimistic despite any circumstance; seeing the glass as half full or look for the 'silver lining'. Being out in nature, or being surrounded by animals (even party animals on occasion :***are passions of mine. I love to cook and taste; to combine diverse flavors by just using my nose. Creative leftovers rock! Spicy ethnic food..make it or take out are both good!I love my red wine(sangria in the summer!..or an ice cold beer.)I love my libations, but everything in moderation; I know when to say when. And you do too. :-) If the mood isnt right or if Im doing a body cleanse...weeks can pass with no 'bevie'.Music is huge for me. I love to check out a band with friends. The sound track to my life..everything from the 70's and 80's, jazz, big blues fan, top 40, Beatles and Stones are corner stones, reggae, soul, and classical (classical is where I live)... CBC R2 while concentrating or on sunday mornings with paper and coffee or driving in hectic traffic. And sometimes all I want to hear is the wind through the trees..and the birds chirping...or the waves crashing on the shore. (YES puleeZ! :-)Love to travel. Now that my son is grown and I am officially an empty nester, I am becoming a renewed travel bug. I was in Aruba recently, and I would love to plan a trip to the Mediterranean with my guy.I cannot handle cigarette smoke...so if you are a smoker (of tobacco or drugs)...we are not a match.I am a forthright child at heart ( I took an online test to see how 'young at heart' a person is..I got 16 yrs old. lol)..and wouldnt make it through my life without my sense of 'haha'. We all should be able to see the humor in life. Life is hugely amusing when looked at from the right angle. ;-)If you made it this far, thank you! for taking the time and having the interest. Good luck in your quest! ~Lets see where this adventure takes us, shall we?~ "The mind has a thousand eyes; the heart has but one". ~Zen"Your life is not your master...it is your child."~ Emmanuel“Try to become not a man of success, but try rather to become a man of value.â€

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    Yes, but they don't live with me

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Athletic

  • Height

    5'9"

  • Eye color

    Green

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    No

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