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About Me

HI! I've been here, before... And I'm baaaack. I guess you could call it a glutton for punishment. I'll stick with calling it optimistic.I'm still a widow, (he's still not back) been 9 years, like that. My daughters are 13 & 16.I apologize, but if we meet between now annnnd, maybe April or May, I will look like a marshmallow in 12 layers. Looking cute is not as much a priority as keeping my *** warm. I have girlfriends that go out in sleeveless & their teeth chatter all night. That's just dumb.I have an awesome sense of humor, and am also pretty sarcastic. Life is too short & I want someone to laugh with, have fun with, and be able to count on.**I have zero interest in giving birth to anymore children. That ship hasn't just sailed, it blew up & sunk, I'm not interested. Nor do I want to teach a 20 year old a thing or two. **I am a CNA, and I absolutely love caring for my residents. I work 3 days a week for now, however, I am self sufficient, own my own home and car. I don't need a man to save me, and I don't want a man that needs saving. With that said, last month I replaced my first faucet with sprayer, including shut off valves & supply lines and today I replaced a part on my dishwasher, that I figured out & ordered all by myself. Guys seem to take issue when I don't run to them like a sissy & ask for help. Unless it's automotive or electrical, odds are I'm going to figure it out, or hurt myself, trying. I think there is still a stone in my chin from the header off the ladder I took last fall cleaning out my gutters. I fixed 3 issues with my lawn mower last fall, which was promptly shot to hell this spring when I hit the patio with it.I love to fish, and have not done that nearly enough, this summer. My favorite place to be is on or near the water. Catching frogs, crayfish, or fish, or hanging out at the lake with a cold drink are what impresses me. Poetry readings, operas, fine dining & other lah-tee-dah crap does NOT. I can "clean up real good" for a company party, sure.Ideally, I want to be swept off my feet by a guy with integrity, intelligence, humor, and romance. I'm not your typical chick, by a long shot.I am looking for someone that is employed & supports themselves, does NOT live with Mommy & Daddy, does NOT do drugs, is *SINGLE* (as in NOT MARRIED), and is not just here for a booty call. Picnic by the water, fishing... you get the idea. Not the movies. First of all, you can't talk to each other, and second of all, I probably won't sit still that long. They aren't my thing.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Widowed

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Slim

  • Height

    5'10"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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  • Tina

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    Woman. 38 years old. Zodiac sign: Leo.

    Looking for: man. In age: 29-37

    Hi! My name is Tina. I am divorced other caucasian woman with kids from Sandusky, Michigan, United States. Now I'm looking for new relationships. I want to meet a man, love of my life.

  • Jamila

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    Woman. 39 years old. Zodiac sign: Cancer.

    Looking for: man. In age: 36-46

    HELLO! I'm Becky, I may be 39yrs old but I don't look it! I'm in search of a man who shares similar interests as myself (read above) and has a great smile with pretty teeth, that's a must! I love ladybugs, long walks and super cheesy romance novels. (no I'm not an alcoholic!) I'm really hoping to find a companion who likes to spend time with his woman. I'm a very affectionate person, however I an NOT looking for just a hook up!! I am a relationship type woman with a lot of love to share. I'm very active with both of my children and I play a lot of softball! I work in health care so I do work some weekends and most holidays. That can make it a little tough for dating, but if your willing we will make it work! If you've read this and think we could be a match, send me a message! Hope to hear from you soon!!! An ideal first date would be anything that would allow me to talk to you and get to know you better!

  • Zona

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    Woman. 39 years old. Zodiac sign: Cancer.

    Looking for: man. In age: 36-46

    This thing says I want a relationship. I am in no hurry... friendships are relationships too...just of a different nature.I like to garden and paint...cook and be with friends. Spent most of my adult life (since my children were 2 and 3), alone and taking care of them. They are now 12, and 13. I stay away from dating for the most part because I don't want to loose. When a person loves someone truly, they reset their priorities to build a better relationship. I have friends....a lot of them and they all know each other. I know people from all walks of live, every race, religion, and sexual preference. I value my friendships like family. They are my family and have always had my back. I feel that if I were to fall in love again, the person would want to meet the people that come and go into my life. I've been in Cruces for 7 years. I have friends all over the country. I believe in perfect trust... If I were to date again, he would have to be capable of that. In my life I have learned that a relationship has to have three things: Trust, The willingness to be open for that person, and a killer sex life (If physically capable; that only comes w trust and open mind and heart). Without one of these........it is sure to fail. Id rather be alone if I have to sacrifice who I am, what I believe in, or the people I love and consider my family.I'm not a player, not into the party scene, and I do not pretend to be someone I'm not. Not a bad trade of for the seasonal broken heart. My sons have known only one man to seriously be in my life. It didn't last. They are still young and do not need anything but a friend....in the true sense of the word; be cool to them, respect their home and their opinions.... I home school them, and we are happy.Chivalry is not dead, I think a man should protect and care for his woman. Keep her safe, and look out for her mind, body, and heart. I think a woman should BE the 'safe zone' of a man's life....to care for him and trust his judgement.P.S. I clean houses. If you need yours cleaned, please hit me up. As long as it resulted in lightening my smile and a connection I think it wouldn't matter where we were or what we did. I can cook better than most restaurants, so I don't need to be fed lol. I do not need a roommate, I have a home of my own. I do not need presents (but I like flowers :)), I already have what I want.

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