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WinonaOnline
Woman. 32 years old. Zodiac sign: Sagittarius.
Looking for: man. In age: 29-39
I make mistakes, I'm not perfect, I'm out of control, sometimes a lil crazy, and at times hard to handle, but if you can't handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.As with material possessions or professional achievements, relationships give our ego a method by which to identify who we are to the outside world. The problem is that we attach so much of our identity to the external appearance of our relationships that we lose touch with the parts of ourselves that are wise and conscious. The attachment to this false identity leads to a feeling of desperation rather than fulfillment. After all, without the relationship, or the job, or whichever other false identity we have chosen, who would we be? Besides the ego identification, it's easy to develop a dependency on companionship. That independent person that we once were starts to evaporate. Our mind becomes fogged and as our self-identification begins to attach itself to the other person, unconsciously or consciously, we become afraid to lose that person. We become dependent on that person and fearful of loneliness. Out of our emotional insecurities, we start to become needy and to seek out validation from our partner. So, *** focusing on the celebration of love and partnership, it becomes a game of how to protect ourselves from loss. Out of a desire to avoid appearing needy and out of a fear of losing our partner, we start to filter what we say. In doing so, we do not communicate our needs clearly, openly or bravely. We somehow become convinced that our partner will magically know what to do to fulfill our needs. When our needs are not met, we secretly blame the other person and begin to resent them. When we are unhappy, our partner will pick up on the clues, and in turn, secretly resent us, thus starting a vicious cycle in the silent destruction of a romantic partnership. So much of what needed to be said was not said, and bad feelings are bottled up and start to accumulate for both parties. Have you ever had a friend come to you and complain about all of the things they are unhappy about with their partner? Those are the kinds of things they should be telling their partner, if they actually want a change. Worse yet is when one partner openly communicates their needs only to find that the other party is simply not listening, or does not fully acknowledge what was said, or makes them feel guilty for having those needs. Deep down, we are all really good people. But this doesn't mean that any combination of two good people will make a good partnership. There is such thing as a bad fit, and it is okay to admit it. The best fits are ones where the most important values for both people are met. They must have life goals that align with one another and have a mutual attraction, understanding, and level of respect for each other. Both people must be committed to making the partnership their top priority. Sometimes, even when we realize that our relationship isn't a good fit, we justify staying in it with what seem like logical reasons. We may feel that we won't find another person who accepts and loves us as much as the current partner. Or we may be afraid to be alone, so we simply settle by default. Each time we are reminded of the bad fit, we brush it under the rug and distract ourselves with some other thought. We may feel that we are doing a service to the other person by staying in the relationship, but in reality, we are hurting them by not being honest with them and ourselves. And we are accumulating bad feelings and bad energy in our inner space. The problem comes when we find ourselves in a relationship and we are constantly comparing our partners with this conjured-up "perfect" person. When that happens, we stop appreciating our partner for all the beautiful qualities they do possess. The truth is this perfect person does not exist. More importantly, we may not actually need all of these qualities in a partner to be extraordinarily happy. What we need is to identify the most important qualities that we must have in order to feel satisfied and fulfilled . By not having identified the must-have qualities in our chosen life partner, we end up settling, and since the person cannot give us the things we truly need, we start to resent them. This will snowball into larger issues. In life, we will get random results if we have not specified what we want. Identifying and understanding what it is that we need in a relationship, allows us to set clear intentions, and in doing so, moves us closer to realizing our intended desires. I'm up for anything fun.........
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LesliOnline
Woman. 29 years old. Zodiac sign: Leo.
Looking for: man. In age: 26-36
"Because I was born to be the woman. Who belonged to no one, who belonged to everyone. Who had nothing, who wanted everything, with a fire for every experience and an obsession for freedom that terrified me to the point that I couldn't even talk about it, and pushed me to a nomadic point of madness that both dazzled and dizzied me."As a little girl I was read fairy tales, fairy tales of princes and knights that would save the beautiful princess from poisonous apples, monsters, and witches........but sometimes I think it would be so nice to just to be taken care of.I have been told I am one of the last bleeding hearts. I give my heart and soul to everything I do. I am a very passionate person. I have also been told I am smart, loving and just the perfect amount of crazy :). I am fearless and not afraid of experiencing life. I am kind of a fighter, I am not afraid to be honest and put myself out there, I am a no bull-sh*tkinda gal in a very loving way. Although, I have lived out here for 8 years and love it out here, I will always be a bit of a midwestern girl at heart. I have beenn told I have a certain midwestern friendliness, charm, hospitality, authenticity that is difficult to find out here. This combined with my life experiences and open mindeness leads to an interesting combinationI am a catch, I'm smart, funny, loving, and loyal when a guy proves to me he could be the one. I love to fall in love, and be swept off my feet, but I also always open to have fun. If I say I am only open to one experience, I'll miss out on other experiences and it's all about the experience :). Whatever will happen will happen, what is meant to be will be.I am a hard worker, and have a passion for what I do. I am an MSW. I have three jobs and try to keep the main thing the main thing. I work as a clincial case manager at permanent supportive housing for formerly homeless, do in home services for kids with autism, and do in home therapy for chronically disabled adults.I’m really good at Helping others Writing Fighting for a cause Love Making things happen Making others laugh Making the seemingly impossible possible Managing chaos I have been called, "The tamer of wild beasts." Making others feel comfortable Energizing a room The first things people usually notice about me 1). My humor and my laughter (People have told me that I remind them of Lucille Ball, accidently funny and always getting into some kind of debaucle***. My facial expressions 3). My smile 4.) My legs 5). My passion 6). My hair 7). I'm a kind, loving, person 8). Intelligent 7). My fashion sense 8). Wherever I go I seem to have the ability to make others love me, I don't know how or why. I am not putting this down as a madantory must have since obviously the thing that makes two people the most attracted to each other is the energy, but these are the things I tend to be attracted to in men:1). A little bit of an edge2). Chivalry3). Someone who makes me feel safe and protected4). Height5). Deep voices6). Muscular arms7). Tattoos8). A chest I can lay my head on9). Someone open minded10). Someone fun11). Someone who can make me laugh but can also make me think12). A man with drive for whatever that may be13). Good heart"I''ve been out on that open road You can be my full time daddy, White and gold Singing blues has been getting old You can be my full time baby, Hot or cold" I am a really down to earth girl and money and extragavance doesn't impress me. I get more from good conversation that may lead to something more exciting.
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DorlaOnline
Woman. 35 years old. Zodiac sign: Aries.
Looking for: man. In age: 32-42
I am ***a very caring and honest woman looking for the same Somewhere in public so we can get to know each other and see where it goes