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Moise, 37
United States, Minnesota, Twin Valley

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I am a father and a widower. These two things define me - the first I am proud to say and the second I admit for sake of honesty. It has been a year since she died after thirteen years of marriage, so I am still growing into the spaces in my life she left behind.I think I'm posting out of hope rather than expectation. I don't know how I'm really supposed to find anyone anytime soon. My daughter is my priority; I will not leave her home with a sitter while I go out dating. On the other hand, I do not believe it is fair to ask someone to build a relationship around my life without compromise. And I don't feel it is right to take risks on relationships - risks I have always been willing to take - when my daughter could form attachments.I am an intellectual before I am a romantic. I had an open marriage, but do not consider sex to be a priority. That is all true, but it isn't the only truth, especially now. I want a partner in life for life. That void in my life is so real and deep that it keeps trying to fit friends and family into that role. I am not looking for a replacement for my wife as an individual - there cannot be one. But I do want a partner again - someone to be supportive of and someone to share life with. So casual sex doesn't work for me now. Maybe when this heals more in me I will be OK with it, but right now as much as I intellectually want to be able to approach each relationship without expectations, I don't think I can right now emotionally.I am enjoying a career for which I didn't go to school, shouldn't be involved with by reasonable laws of probability, and am somehow not only enjoying but excelling. Don't let that fool you. *I* like it, but it will bore most people to tears.I am trying to become a better father and a better person every day. That is difficult because I think the moment one becomes happy with where one is (regarding personal development), one becomes stagnant. I'm good at research. I learn very quickly. I try hard to find a compromise, though I can be a bully about it. On the other hand, I am not good at sports. I have a tin ear, unable to pick apart the *** a band, only hearing the gestalt. Speaking of picking, I tease a lot and can be insensitive in the short term.I read a lot of fantasy, urban fantasy, and sci-fi inter-dispersed with very varied reference material. My movie preferences are rather slutty, though I show a marked predisposition for the same topics as in my books. Musically, I am stunted, as I have a tin ear and apparently no proper appreciation for musical talent. I love to eat. I stress eat. I celebrate eat. About the only cuisine which I will balk at is Tex-Mex and I still eat it with gusto once it is in front of me. I should be a *lot* heavier than I am.I am usually planning. I have a full time job, well over 15 hours of school, and my daughter, so I am busy. I also run a RPG game every six to eight weeks, so I am planning for it often. If I'm not careful, I think about my future or my past. Usually this is good. Sometimes it makes me anxious.Some things that these questions don't make clear. I am overweight, but between Big and Tall and A Few Pounds, I just couldn't select the Big and Tall. I'm not tall at 5'10", but I am overweight (average of 250lbs these past several years). I didn't finish college which is doubly shameful because I only kept failing out for attendance, not ever grades; I'm going back, though.If that didn't just scare you away and you are willing to deal with a hectic schedule, if you believe that one can be both true to oneself and true to another and that independence and commitment are not mutually exclusive terms, and if you want to have a nice night alternating between laughing banter and heartfelt discussion, then please write. Or perhaps you just have a good joke to tell. Either way.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    woman

  • Relationship

    Widowed

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Yes

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Curvy

  • Height

    5'10"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Christian Techno Dance Playing Cards Watching Sports
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