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Shenika, 51
United States, Maine, Poland

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A mean spirited person recently did a line by line critique of my profile, and though I in general didnt take it too personally it did remind me that my profile was do for an overhaul.The basics:I am moving to NC and will be there mid September. And yes I do have a southern accent. I have two grown children currently living in LA and Chcago. At this age I realize that eating healthy and gym time are going to have to be a part of life if I want to stay being small. As the that reference, I am short and small but I am by no means a twiggy girl. I have curves and muscles and would have described myself as curvy but was told that was code for fat and I am by no means fat.I do try and eat healthy most of the time but life is too short to not indulge occasionally! I am an interior designer and have spent the last twenty years managing flooring stores. I had a poly sci and pre-law double major and sometimes I wonder how in the world I got from that to here, but life happens! I am a good cook and I love to bake. I just need someone to bake for so I dont eat it! I love to garden and do yard and do have a bit of a green thumb. I have my own power tools ( well they are currently in storage, explanation to come) and have done several remodel projects thanks to hurricanes and new houses!The contradictions:I love to shop! I shop more for entertainment than for need usually. I love the challegne of finding that rare item at an unbeleiveable low price. However I am not one of those girls that likes to spend the day out with the girls shopping, I would much rather spend the day watching football! So although I might look like a girly girl and have tons of hot shoes, I am probably a tom-boy at heart! I love most all sports, but probably football , baseball and hockey are my favorites. I am a huge football fan, college and pro.- Roll Tide! And I have recently realized you dont have to be a sports fan to catch my attention! The next contradiction! Although I have done building interiors for the last twenty years, I prefer exteriors! I love buildings and architecure. I like the mountains and the beach! Spring and fall but will admit I do prefer fall! There are times I will talk your head off and other times I set back and take it all in. You will particularly notice that on long car rides. The journey:My recent critic pointed out that the following information makes me sound unstable. This did hurt my feelings since I felt I was sharing something very personal to me. First off, I own a home, had a very successful career and raised two terrific, stable , successful children on my own. I dont think you can get much more stable than that! That being said, on my 49th birthday I realized I was not happy and needed to make some changes in my life. I got back in shape, sold my big SUV , rented out my house, and decided I needed to find what was going to make me happy for the next 50 years. Yes this was proabably a mid-life crisis but there have been several important people in my life that didnt live to see 50 and I realized we take for granted that tomorrow is guaranteed. Well a few months after I got there my daughter left to go to LA and business turned bad and it seemed crazy to stay somewhere alone and unhappy! So I gave some thought to what I really find joy in, alone or with someone, and that was travelling. With that knowledge and that this inner feeling I have had for years that there was something I was supposed to go out there and find, I set out on my current adventure. I packed up my household goods and put them in storage and set out to find that person, calling, or just the place I am supposed to be. I really don't know which it is and I really hope it is all three. I can and will provide all the details on that in person. I try to tell everyone, that although NC is where I am now, that if I find that person I am suppose to find and they are not here, I am in a position to go wherever I need to go. So just because I am currently not the girl next door, don't discount me because tomorrow I might be!The man:Hmmm... that is the hardest part! We all have our typical physical types we are attracted to but I have found with age I like all types! What I am looking for is someone who can put a smile on my lips and my in my heart. I want someone who I cant wait to share my crazy stories with! I am at a point I want to find that person to spend the rest of my life with, so it would be my hope that is where you are too. I want someone who is open minded and not judgemental. Someone who has the strength to tell me to stop when I need to stop but the insight to let me fly when I need to soar. Someone who knows it takes two to make a relationship work and is willing to put the time and effort into a relationship. I will tell you everyday what you mean to me and I would hope to find someone that can express their feelings and feels secure enough with me to let me share theirs dreams, desires and hurts. It is a big chance we take putting our hearts out there knowing full well we can get hurt, but I need someone willing to take that chance. Great rewards only come with great risk and I know it is hard to risk your heart, but I am taking that chance and putting mine out there, and I hope to find that someone also willing to do the same. After having written this now twice I know there are things I left out, but I have bored you enough! If you want the sequel all you have to do is ask! And if you fell asleep reading this you can thank the jerk who prompted me to rewrite my profile! Good luck with your search and I hope we all find that which completes us.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Athletic

  • Height

    5'2"

  • Eye color

    Green

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Electro Fantasy Martial Arts Cricket
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