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Nicki, 54
United States, North Carolina, Pilot Mountain

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About Me

The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. - C.G. Jung I believe that life isn't meant to give us our meaning. We give meaning to our life. I am spiritual but not religious, and I was long before it became cliché and it was just considered weird. I was even country when country wasn't cool although I know for some of you it still isn't:) I am looking for a fellow journeyer whose desire it is to create a mature and authentic relationship. Someone who knows who he is and how to keep it real; the walk your talk thing. I do my best to focus on what I want as opposed to what I don't and I had this at the bottom of my profile but I think it needs to be a little closer to the top for those of you might not get that far... " I will unlikely respond to one sentenced messages or a primary focus on my physical appearance."I value what's on the inside much more than the outer. I am a very down to earth and organic woman. Still waters run deep and so do I. I love where I am in life and excited about where I might be going. I happily accept my grey hair and wrinkles for the privilege of knowing who I am. I've lived long enough to learn if you keep falling in the same pothole it might be time to chose a different road and it seems my road is the one less travelled...ah I am just full of clichés. As I was writing this I started thinking about clichés as they seem to abound here, so I looked up the meaning. Cliché: A trite expression--often a figure of speech whose effectiveness has been worn out through overuse and excessive familiarity. So even though not very original, there is value to be found in the content so I thought it would be fun to express my intention and desires through clichés because it seems it is what most do here in the sea of Plenty of Fish:) Let’s begin with quality over quantity. Yes, and the qualities I admire in others and I am cultivating in myself is the ability to stop and smell the roses and/or coffee. I am interested in people who understand there is no time like the present (yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift). Who comprehend it is absolutely pointless to cry over spilt milk. They may be a diamond in the rough but remember from the little acorn grows a mighty oak. One who carries their own baggage. And of course there is no sweeping things under the carpet, beating around the bush or making mountains out of molehills. You can keep on moving on if you are looking for greener pastures. Judge not, lest ye be judged. And the big one....no drama! I am still very much a work of art in progress.Okay, that is about as cheesy as even I am willing to get. Still there is depth of meaning to the above and here is my actual translation. I love to be around people with the ability to appreciate the small things in life and know that love is in the details. Who choose to live in the present moment and find no value hanging on to the past or are waiting for that better thing in the future that will finally make them happy particularly if they think it is me. Who are aware the only moment we ever have is right NOW! They can see all "so called" negative experience come with opportunities to grow and learn. They understand life is about changing and becoming, and seriously guys, the no baggage thing makes me chuckle. We all have stuff . It comes with the condition called "being human" and I believe it is what grows us and gives us each our unique perspectives. If you think you have none, you might want to turn around and have another look. And if your stuff is you are in an unfinished relationship I am uninterested. What matters to me is your ability to deal with what you carry. And then there is the "no drama" thing. People living with drama always think the problem comes from outside of them and is caused by others. The truth is people who really don't want drama just don't have drama. You have to recognize it when it comes and choose not to engage and it is this choosing that keeps you drama free, not telling others you don't want it.I value honesty and the capacity to tell one's truth even if it isn't popular or easy. I am very straight up and you will always know where you stand with me; something I have noticed not everyone appreciates. And those who do, I call friend. And very important is an understanding how nothing is ever really personal (I'm still working on this one). Also a commitment to creating harmony *** conflict is imperative. Most significant for me is the ability to look for and see the good in life, because life is what you make it. I don't have it all figured out but for the most part I am enjoying the process of self-discovery.My intention is to be my best most loving Me. I live my life daily challenging my ego and it's judgements. I see everybody as a mirror, so if my buttons get pushed I look inside myself to understand why what they did or didn't do bothers me so much rather than blame and look outside at them. It is not easy and I continually slip and fall. It takes practise, courage and much discipline to live this way. I have made a decision that it is important to me that I build all new relationship with those who are on similar path and who are awake, aware and consciously evolving. I wish to create an authentic partnership with someone who looks inside for his answers and is committed to his personal growth. Who takes responsibility for his behaviours and choices, and knows he creates his own experience and from this he grows. I am very committed to leading a green and Eco-friendly lifestyle. I garden and can and preserve the food I grow, I buy organic, I cook and bake from scratch and I even make my own non-toxic cleaning supplies. I think I was born in the wrong decade because I would have made a very good pioneer woman or maybe even a happy hippie or flower child. *If the power ever goes out you are going to want to know me.....lol. More seriously, I really care about my carbon footprint and how I am leaving this planet for our next generations.This is my path and if you share it I would love to explore the endless possibilities. And although secondary to me but not unimportant is a mutual physical attraction and chemistry that must not be *** am raising my grandchildren. They are my first and most important priority and anyone who chooses to enter my life will be an asset to them as well as me. Parenting again was curve ball and not something I ever expected to be doing at this stage in my life but here we are, and the lemonade is wonderful. One last cliché:) I live by the beach and I like to walk....let's take it from there:)

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Other

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'7"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Pop Rap Caribbean French German Shooting Sports Soccer / Football
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