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Mel, 41
United States, Kansas, Ottawa

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About Me

Hello there! I guess we'll have to start staying active inside now! Hoping to make that connection to share my life with. Trying to remain positive but with the luck I've had my hope is fading fast. Our mission objective should be to stop that immediately for both us! Deal? Any takers? Would love to hear from you...ready, set, go!!!I'm nothing special but I am very open and honest. So don't be shy and feel free to say hello. Someone recently told me to don't be shy and be assertive. It's hard for me to NOT be shy until I get to know someone. I try to take chances as much as I can because I'll miss the ones I don't but I'm not pushy or THAT assertive. Just know that I'm not looking for perfection because I'm far from perfect. I just know what I want and what I don't want. I don't think it is too much to ask because nobody should settle for less than what they deserve. I'm not right for everyone and everyone is not right for me. Hopefully I'll meet someone who feels the same way I do and let things just happen...I'm looking for a woman who understands that I have children. My son lives with me full time now and any time I get to spend with them is precious to me. Therefore, my priority is with them first. I'm sure many Mothers can understand this. I absolutely adore my kids and I love talking about them. My kids are older now so I realize I need to start living more for me. This means anyone I'm sharing my life with can be included in that sharing. I have no age limits, height requirements, or ethnic requirements. You can either have kids or not have kids just as long as you can accept my two very cool, laid back besties! I do prefer that you are attractive in your own way, that you have a job that you love, that you take pride in your appearance. I would appreciate it immensely if you were very upfront, open, and honest...I'm not on here for games. I consider myself and open book so feel free to ask me anything.I do not drink ever at all. Not even a drop and haven't in over 17 years. I made a conscious decision on my own to stop. I still go out and have fun and I don't mind people who drink. As long as you stay in control and drink in moderation there is no issue. I know if I were choosing to surround myself with people like me...I'd be one lonely dude! Don't let the fact I don't drink deter you please. I know some that may balk at the idea. I'm completely ok with social drinkers who maintain control.I'm looking to find my best friend, my companion, and my lover to share my life with. I want her to be the one I can't stand to be without. I know this can not happen overnight but I'm not going to stop it should I feel it going in that direction. I believe in communication, integrity, honor, commitment, devotion, and chivalry (no, it is not DEAD) I love to spoil and be spoiled! I love anything outdoors (as long as it is not cold or snowing). I love running, working out, golf, hockey, racing, softball, swimming, biking, and shopping. Yes, I love to spend money. Quiet nights out are preferred, but loud and rambunctious nights out are fun if done in moderation. I don't mind picking up take-out and cuddling up on the couch with a movie. Either way, I will be happy as long as you are happy.And if you've made it this far, then I sincerely thank you for reading my mini-biography! ;-) Kind regards to you and yours! First dates can be tricky and it all depends on the time of day. I like to make the first date short and non-binding! A nice intimate lunch meeting in the middle of a crazy week. An evening out on the town with dinner followed by an event or just a walk in a park to talk and get to know one another works wonders. If the weather isn't cooperating, then a stroll through the mall or a chat with coffee at a bookstore or coffee house is always good.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    woman

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Athletic

  • Height

    5'9"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    No

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