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Octavia, 53
United States, Alabama, Northport

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Distance seems to be a problem for many except me. I trust and can be trusted, and will make the together time count. I refuse to give up hope and would move mountains to make it work with that special person... IF YOU BELIEVE THAT DISTANCE IS AN ISSUE...Go ahead and move on... I don't live in a box and am open to possibilities... I CAN AND WOULD MOVE IN TIME TO BE WITH THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE. I take commitment/relationships extremely serious... so while I may not move at race horse speed... nor am I a snail, and perhaps that's why I figure distance is "relevant"....not a deterrent:)I am easy to get along with BUT and this is as honest as I can be... I do not do nonsense (BS) well.... I am way to straight forward and have too much self respect to indulge in nonsense, and I will just walk away.My preference is to date only caucasian men between ***yrs of age; I prefer taller men... without children under the age of ***but preferences aside, nothing is set in stone),,, I refuse to list my "wants" and "want nots". It's simple really, honesty, excellent communication skills, desire/attraction/chemistry to last the years, a man that can dance, make me think, smile and laugh, a strong man, body and soul. A man I think about randomly that "brings a smile to my face." I want to desire "him" 20 YRS from now just as much/more than the day I met "him" and vice versa. Me: Spontaneous, passionate, realistic, hopeful and optimistic.....I am not here looking to "carousel" date, or have ever ending "meet and greets.";right" man and go from there. The stage I'm entering now is new and exciting, My wish is to find a man who wants to build an exciting and rewarding relationship/life together. It takes time to get to know "someone" and experience has taught me it is difficult to do so if not focused on the "one" you're with at the moment. While I have learned to never say never, I am not particularly interested in a man with young children. Children should come first!. What I am looking for is that something "special"- I refuse to settle. We all deserve to be with somebody who "gets our magic," and that idea has stuck with me. No one should settle for "good enough," and we all deserve to be with somebody that amazes and excites us. . I prefer to be by myself then with the wrong man-lonely and alone are very different. My wish is to find one man to spend quality time with, enjoy, get to know ,see where it leads,I do not do commitment casually. I do absolutely believe a healthy relationship MUST consist of a consistent, passionate, sensual, sexual relationship, this I will not compromise. Next: This seems so unnecessary, but yet it is and is ESSENTIAL: Single is SINGLE..... or because you work out of town Monday - Thursday., it means SINGLE.I am not perfect, if perfection is what you seek, it is not here, I didn't get to this point in my life by making all the right choices -and unlike some who so vehemently declare that "at this point in my life I've made all the mistakes I'm gonna make" -God Bless,I wouldn't even think to make such a declaration about myself, frankly, I find that totally "arrogant. " if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." I enjoy the sun-working in the yard-sitting outside drinking my coffee or beer, reading outside, lounging in the pool, dining on a brisk morning, or at sunset . I am a great cook, truly enjoy cooking for my family and friends would like to find a man to share the kitchen with, prepare a meal, talk, take the opportunity to "share" the experience with. I am a water person- I am comfortable almost anywhere, and am quite diverse. There is no "petite" button, but at my size, I am not "average" per se....I'm Petite at 4'10.5", ***#-I'm a good woman, spiritual, funny, very witty and quick on my feet -intelligent but somewhat of a "brat" :) My pictures reflect who I am and are current...my weight has not fluctuated in over 5 years...I'm social -enjoying being a woman rather than a girl I feel better now than ever in my life. I am very energetic and personable. Easy keeper, move with ease from the farm to the theatre, jeans to little black dress! I wear many hats! I am a single mom of 3 great kids- an empty nester and looking toward my future. Life right now allows me to be quite flexible and I do absolutely believe in mutual interests and separate interests and simply enjoying "being together" even if it isn't your favorite thing to do!!! LOL that's called a "partnership" a "relationship" I'm game, are you?I enjoy good conversation and company. I HAVE TO HAVE CHEMISTRY-a spark-immediately to go on to the next level -just who I am. 1 THING I do not find attractive at all is ARROGANCE on ANY LEVEL! I KNOW that money/things/education don't equal class, do you? I am not suitable to someone who would rather "stay home and watch tv" then go....I am not a homebody; nor do I need to be entertained constantly, but I am active. I of course can relax at home and chill, watch a good movie.--but watch a day of movies?...maybe on a really ugly stormy day???...but in general I watch very little tv... no gameshows LOL... and I do not own a recliner..I am not in any manner a weak or desperate woman...which might make me sound demanding... honestly not...just know myself very well and am honest about myself. Found this quote on another profile, stole it... it's perfect, it's me: "What makes me unique is that I am real. I don't play games when it comes to matters of the heart. And I expect the same in return nothing more nothing less".Apparently my profile offends some, it's honest,---If it appears that "I want" alot,, well yes, I do-and will give back ten fold...I absolutely understand "mutual".....Many men say they want "honesty" and "open communication" but then when presented with such a woman are clearly taken aback...I'm still trying to understand the difference in the terms to the sexes!Lastly.....best of luck to all of us.... I can and will admit that I dislike this forum of meeting men..Although, I do believe it can work, but that honesty from the get go is of utmost importance and that "timing is everything!" I am trying to stay optimistic about online dating, I truly am...just as in life, some days are better than others?But we both know what memories can bringThey bring Diamonds and RustYes we both know what memories can bringThey bring Diamonds and Rust~JB~ Open to casual drink or coffee or?

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Other

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'7"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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