Ruthie, 49
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Professional loafer... but I get up every morning and go to work doing some GIS stuff, because loafing all day can get tiresome.... I'm a Bostonian by birth and at heart. Big time Red Sox fan, tried and true thru thick and thin. I love the SPORT of baseball, everything about baseball. I love double and triple A ball, probably MORE than I love big league baseball.I am a single mom, and I don't smoke or do drugs. I do drink occasionally (meaning that I'll have a drink a few times a year), but you'd never find me sitting at home drinking - I do it when I'm out of the house, being a good role model to my daughter is very important to me. My daughter has NEVER seen me take a drink, and I'll keep it that way. I don't hang in clubs or bars, that got a little played out a long time ago. I'd rather do something that will expand my mind. And before we go on... you should know that I am FAT. No, I'm not going to sugar coat it and say BBW, because we all know those women are just trying to paint a pretty picture of their own fat-ness when they call themselves BBW. I am not ashamed or afraid to say it: I'm FAT. Fat... Fat.... Fat..... (I know I'm going to lose the shallow ones in the crowd, or those of you that are beyond being seen with a fat chick, and that is a good thing***Bye!I haven't ALWAYS been fat. In fact, I've been a skinny chick most of my life. But something happened when I hit about the age of 40. Some fat chick jumped into my body, and I have NO idea who she is, but she's wreaking havoc on me. I'm going to kick her AS$ when I find her. The form on here that says "ALL MY KIDS are over 18", makes me seem, well... a tad 'over-productive'... lol. I have ONE daughter. She is 18.I am all about lover's rock and old school reggae. I love beaches, travel. I love interacting with people who are different than I am, it gives us that much more to talk about, share, explore, and learn. I've been to Africa a few times, Spain for a few months, the UK, all over the Caribbean ***lost count at 60 trips, I'm guessing somewhere near 70 now. How I approach this thing called 'internet dating': Well, frankly, I don't. Well, I've done it once. But I'm willing to give it a try again if you let me take it slowwwwwwww. I'm looking for someone who has something to bring to the table. You don't have to have a college degree, but I do expect you to be intelligent. You don't have to be a highly paid Wall Street executive, but you do need to have a J-O-B that you go to on a daily basis. You don't have to have perfect credit, but at our age, you should at least have a bank account. You don't have to dress in an Armani suit, because truth is***I love a guy in sweats and a wifebeater more.... I am probably the LEAST materialistic woman that you will ever meet, however, I am NOT looking to support any man.With that said, I do realize that men get the short end of the stick when it comes to dating. I mean, with the current economy, who can afford the gas to drive to pick a woman up, and get to the destination, nevermind pay for a meal for two at a moderate restaurant, the high cost of movie tickets, or the cost associated with any other activity? And to try to date on a weekly basis - well, that's almost like paying a mortgage. That's the reality of dating for a man, where tradition expects YOU to foot the bills. Now, I'm an old-fashioned girl, and love traditional values, but that doesn't mean that I'm not a realist, and that I don't recognize the expense of dating for a man. I WILL treat you from time to time, or can be MORE than happy in simple, no-cost dates. But I'm also a woman, and want to be treated well, it shows me that you think I'm worth it. I'm not much of a conversationalist. I'm pretty quiet, maybe even borderline introverted. But someone with the gift of gab usually brings me out of my shell, then the conversation will be a two way street for sure! Maybe I'm even old fashioned in that I like for a man to make the first move. I also don't care for men who put 'muscle' pics on their profile, or at least as their main profile pic. I don't care about how big your biceps are!!!!! I would MUCH prefer a guy with a belly who makes me believe that his most important asset is his intelligence, his heart, his compassion, his sincerity, his humor... ANYTHING besides his physical attributes. I mean, you MIGHT be eye candy (although muscles are only a SMALL part of the total package that equals 'eye candy')... but what do you have besides muscles????????? What can your muscles do for me????? Seriously. Can they comfort me or make me feel secure better than smaller arms? Nope. Can they make me laugh? Nope. Can they communicate with me? Nope. The point is - your muscles are totally meaningless to me. Besides ***they probably make your dck look small. lol. There is nothing wrong with being physically fit. However, there are men who are probably MORE FIT than the muscle bound, and can still put their arms down next to their sides comfortably. So anyone who thinks the physical is the most important thing that they can offer a woman is waaaaaaaaaaaay too SUPERFICIAL for my liking. Now, if you are a man who highlights your OTHER qualities on your profile, AND you happen to pump iron but it doesn't define you ***I can appreciate, respect and enjoy that! I might even LUST over you, but it won't be the muscles that does it - it would be because you are the total package.So... what else? Well, if you are about my age, that means that we are both middle-aged. If you are one of those men who expects a middle-aged woman to have the looks and body of an 18 year old, CLICK OFF MY PROFILE PLEASE. You are TOTALLY unrealistic. And UNFAIR! It cracks me up when I watch some balding, beer-gut afflicted middle-aged man turning his nose up to a plump middle-aged woman thinking he remains God's gift to women. News flash: You are bald and fat. At least I have all my hair, one up on YOU... lol.Anyway, for those of you still reading, and if you don't mind the lumps and bumps that come with child-bearing and age, and those that come from being in the kitchen and EATING the food that I cook for the man in my life and my child (because GROWN women take care of their family and that means COOKING for them)... then please feel free to contact me! I'd love if a guy showed up with tickets to a sporting event. Or a tent. Or a kayak. Or plane tickets, lol.
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