“No Drama Queen” – this is simply and undeniably the line almost all men include in their profile. Men, why do you use it? What are you trying to avoid? Ladies are you guilty of being a “Drama Queen”? What does it mean to you and how do you stop being one?
The following questions may help you find out if your behavior and attitudes are sabotaging your chances for real love and if they are, how to change it.
1. Is The Ghost of Your Last Relationship Still Floating Around?
The old rule about “getting back on the horse” as soon as possible does not apply in the dating world. No matter how long the relationship lasted, a week or ten years it will take some time before you are really ready to get back into the dating game.
If you start to date too soon you will bring that baggage with you to the new guy or gal. You will talk about the old flame, become emotional about things that have nothing to do with the new person and generally not be a very good date. In short, you’ll be a “Drama Queen.”
Give it some time. Take care of yourself and do things just for you. Find some old friends and go out to a new restaurant, get a massage, go to a movie, do anything. Just take care of yourself and you’ll be ready for a new love soon enough. And you’ll be able to leave the “Drama Queen” baggage at home.
2. How’s Your Dating Confidence?
When you’ve let enough time pass and you think you’re ready to get back out there take a moment and assess your level of confidence – your confidence about yourself as a person and your confidence about being back out on the dating scene.
If your confidence is not where you think it should be two things may be happening. You may still not be ready (see #1 above) or you may just be in need of a little makeover.
The makeover should be both inner and outer. The inner makeover will involve thinking about your good qualities, the things about you that make you awesome! We all have them, you just need to find yours and focus on them.
The outer makeover can be anything from a buying a new pair of shoes to getting a completely new hairstyle. Just go out and do whatever it is that will make you feel like the best You you can be. And the best You is definitely not a “Drama Queen”
3. Are You Really Ready To Get out There and Have Some Fun?
So, now that enough time has passed and your confidence is up at the rooftop, it’s time to have some fun. Fun, happy people naturally draw people to them and one way this works in the dating world is to flirt.
This may sound like a silly idea that only applies to young bimbos, but it works, even online. You can be a little silly, fun and daring in an email or through chat, and it will make you stand out from the crowd. The best part is that you will in no way be seen as a “Drama Queen”.