It’s not a secret that one of the most widespread reasons for people to avoid online dating is a fear of being rejected. On the Internet we have to present ourselves to hundreds of other users, so people with low self-esteem, who take things too close to heart, are unlikely to use online matchmaking services. Now let’s take a closer look at these online fears.
You have found a nice partner online and are sure that this very person is who you’ve been looking for all this time. You seem to be on the same wave and everything is going perfect, but suddenly he/she stops chatting with you. He/she doesn’t answer your messages, ignores all your offers and requests without any explanations.
Check in your previous messages, maybe there is something that could offend you partner. Are there any dirty jokes or something like that? If yes – just apologize and bear in mind all the topics to avoid while communicating with him/her. If not – just put up with the thought your partner may have found someone else. Treat this communication as useful experience and move further – there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Write him/her a message where you ask about the reasons for his/her ignorance. Maybe your partner has really sound reasons for not answering you. Tell him/her that you’d like to continue the communication as soon as your partner solves all his/her problems. You may also offer your help. This will show your online date you are really attracted and aimed at a long-term relationship.
You’ve exchanged a couple of messages with a user and think that he/she may become a perfect match for you. There are a lot of colorful plans in your head, you just close your eyes and see your date. But suddenly all your dreams are broken one day when you get a new message from your would-be partner where you are straightly offered sex or told that your date has got the partner and they are just looking for someone to accompany them. Of course, you feel sad and disappointed. But on the other hand, you should be grateful to this user for his/her openness and honesty. As this offer puts everything in its places at once and will help you to avoid disappointment in future.
What to do
First of all, pay attention to the online services you browse through and choose only credible ones in order to avoid misunderstanding with other users. It’s just stupid to create a dating profile one the swingers’ website and wait for a marriage proposal, isn’t it?
Be prepared to receive messages with similar content. Unfortunately, there are a lot of users seeking for sexual relationships only, that’s why make sure your dating profile doesn’t contain any ambiguous phrases or vulgar photos.