Are you in the friend zone? Are you wondering if you are spending time together solely as friends or if there is the potential for more? These are questions that so many people go through while they move throughout the courting phase of a relationship.
Knowing if you are in the friend zone or if there is the possibility for something more can be a tricky situation to navigate. If you’re not sure then you don’t want to be the one to make the first move. Play it cool, wait to see what transpires, but be ready for anything and with low expectations. That can help you to see the situation for what it is, and to know if this is just a friendship or there is a spark of chemistry between you.
So, if you have any sign of doubt in your relationship, ask yourself these 4 questions to see whether you have a chance to move your relationship forward.
Has there been any chemistry between you two?
It’s that spark that you can’t even put into words. When you cross that line into more than just friends, you can often feel it before you even articulate it. If you take a step back is there something brewing between you two that you can’t even put into words? It may be some sort of chemistry that’s undeniable then it’s likely more than just friends. If you don’t feel that or sense any interest, then that may give you the answer that you may not want to face.
Is there any talk about relationships or the future?
If you’re in doubt then think about the times that you have talked about relationships. This may be about past or future relationships or what you want in somebody. If you talk freely and you feel as if they are giving off hints about you, then it may be worth exploring. If they only ever talk about other people, then chances are that they have never considered you as anything more than a friend. Look at the types of talks that you’ve had and there may be clues there either way.
Are you attracted to each other and is there flirting?
You can usually identify or pinpoint flirting when it’s happening. Even if you never really thought of it that way, there still may be something there. Take a look at the way that you interact with each other—is there some possible attraction beneath the surface? Are you drawn to each other and able to talk to each other on a different level? There are often clues that can’t be ignored. That’s what you have to pinpoint if you are to even consider the possibility of more than friends.
Have you ever had any “friend talk” that could hold you back from something further?
If you are in the friend zone then you have likely had a talk about being such good friends. Note if they have repeatedly referred to you as their friend or come to you for relationship advice, this may be sending a message. If they think of you as a brother or sister then they likely aren’t into you romantically. The friend zone is often very apparent so be sure that you are honest with yourself if these conversations have presented themselves.
If you need help getting a girl to like you as more than a friend and you are currently stuck in the “Friend Zone”… Don’t worry, this video tutorial shares great advice which will be the most helpful for you!
So how to stimulate a friend to be “more than friends”? What can help to move forward from “just friends” to girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, or lover? How to get out of the “friend zone”? Questions that many want to know the answers to.
We would like to tell you about a magic pill or to share a love potion recipe, but unfortunately, it’s not that simple. However, we would like to highlight some tips that can help you take a step forward.
1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR IT AND LET IT GO
It’s time to realize that you are in the “friend zone” and accept responsibility. There is no one to blame in this situation, just know that. By accepting responsibility, it will be much easier for you to control your actions and be able to influence the situation.
2. BE LESS INTERESTED
Take a step back. Being “needy” is no way to negotiate. Desperate people end up with what others give them, not what they want. The relationship is already imbalanced because you value it more than the other person. So, be less interested and ready to walk away if you don’t get the relationship you want.
3. STOP PUTTING YOUR CRUSH ON A PEDESTAL
Putting your crush on a pedestal is as though you were seeking approval and validation. Stop doing everything and anything they want to do, but start doing things and setting up things you want to do.
4. HANG OUT WITH OTHER PEOPLE AND HAVE FUN
There are many benefits to this point. You will have a great time, get acquainted with new people and maybe meet someone who will have mutual feelings for you. It can also serve as a way to provoke your friend’s jealousy, which hereinafter can make them think about existing feelings for you.
5. TRY FLIRTING
Never forget the importance of sexual attraction. Start teasing a little bit and giving compliments, but avoid elaborate, sophisticated ones. By using small hints, you will let your friend know that your relationship can go to a whole new level. And for practice, it’s better to go back to point 4.
6. WORK ON YOURSELF
You should always remember that the most important relationship in your life is the one with yourself. Cultivate your abilities, do sports, read books, travel… Become an interesting and multifaceted person. You will notice that your self-esteem will increase and people will start to reach out to you more often.
Remember to focus on your own worth, don’t be desperate, and be willing to walk away. Allow some space for the other person to miss you. Make some friends outside of that friendship. Finally, let that friend invest in you and reward them for it. If they truly value you in their life, then they will be much more likely to take the relationship to the next level. If they don’t, you already have some new friends, your self-respect, and one foot out the door.