Unfortunately, the notions of dating and disappointment go together from time to time. Moreover, this is one of the crucial factors preventing singles from going on dates again and again. Even if we claim we are not afraid of rejection and don’t expect anything special from our new date, actually we do.
Every time staying in front of the mirror when getting prepared for the evening with a new would be partner subconsciously we hope that he/she may become our one and only. Every time after not a very successful date we realize that we were wrong once again and here comes the disappointment.
By the way, having read hundreds of articles and interviews devoted to matchmaking issues I come to the thought that men and women have absolutely different expectations when going on a first date thus, preparing the ground for mutual disappointment and misunderstanding. There are not too many single men out there who tend to launch long term relationships with the lady they’ve just met while women’s plans of being together usually go far away.
So, what do we need to do to make the process of dating easier and get rid of unpleasant emotions? Don’t take things too close to heart and stop making plans before your relationships actually become relationships. Treat dating as a pleasant and exciting game where each new step just makes you closer to the prize. I don’t persuade you to become cynics, no! I just want you to become realists who don’t have any illusions about new people.
As soon as you learn to take things as they are, your life will become easier and your communication with others will get to absolutely another level. Don’t think about your future too much and take one day at a time. This will definitely help you relax and start enjoying your life right now.