That first date can be such a stressful experience, but it doesn’t have to be! The truth is that most of us have been on a bad first date, but it doesn’t always have as much to do with the person that we’re with in the end. Sure, there are some bad matches out there, but if you don’t meet in the right place, then you may be setting yourself up for failure from the start. If you want to make this an enjoyable experience for both of you and potentially lead to the second date, then you absolutely need to be sure that you find the perfect spot for your first date.
We spend so much time thinking about what the other person will be like, what we’ll wear, or how we’ll act that this often becomes our main focus. If we would instead focus on where we meet and how this will factor into two people talking and getting to know each other, then we’d be creating a platform for success. Where you meet and what you do on that all important first date will make a greater impact on the outcome than nearly anything else. So while you do want to think of the type of impression you give off or what the other person might think of you, it also matters greatly what type of environment you actually meet each other.
As you think of the perfect first date spot, it may be dependent upon the type of people that you are. Though this may be an individual type of decision, there are some criteria that can help to set the right framework. Consider these elements and you can find a first date spot that is conducive to getting to know each other and ensures that a second date may actually happen in the end.
1. It allows you to feel comfortable with each other from the moment you meet.
You absolutely need and want to feel comfortable with each other from the moment that you first meet and start talking. If you are in a bar that you feel uneasy in or some sort of location that makes you feel anxious, then you won’t be yourself. Even if you are worried about the price of things or what you will end up doing, then it prohibits you from being yourself and putting yourself out there. Find a nice spot that you both feel comfortable with and you can talk freely within, and it will make all the difference in the world.
2. It has background noise, but you can still talk comfortably to each other.
Realistically, you do not want a place that is so quiet that you can hear a pin drop. Along the same lines, though you also want to be able to talk without background noise of music or talking gets in the way. Yes acoustics of the environment do matter! Find somewhere that has some sort of background noise so that you’re not out of your element, but for which you can also carry on a conversation easily and it will help tremendously.
3. It allows you to both get involved and be an active part of the first date.
An activity that allows interaction between the two of you is perfect. Bowling, a nice dinner, coffee somewhere, or something that is interactive and ensures two parties getting involved is what it’s all about. It’s all about having fun and getting to know each other so that you can decide if there will be a next date—that’s the ultimate goal!
4. You can enjoy a meal or some other main feature as the backdrop of this first meeting.
The reason that so many couples meet at a restaurant is that it’s the perfect environment for the first date. It’s a public place, you can talk while you eat or enjoy some great activity, and this makes for the perfect platform for which to work off of. This will help you to accomplish everything you want and enjoy an evening too.
5. It is on mutual ground and you feel safe there so that you aren’t anxious or uneasy.
If you feel at all uneasy then you will clam up and not talk at all. Make it a very public place and one for which you feel safe. Be willing to speak up if you need to so that you are both comfortable from the start. If you don’t do this then you will spend the entire first date worrying and things won’t progress beyond that, so keep safety at the forefront of your mind too!