You feel like you could have a connection with this person. You like them and you see some great potential. You really want to make things work, but you’re feeling unsure of how to make the first date a success. If you’ve had bad experiences in the past with the first date or if you get really nervous, then it’s time to change your luck. There are some simple but effective things that you can do on the first date which will help you to win them over, and to guarantee that you get the second date too.
It’s not as hard as you might think for it’s really about changing your point of view and the way that you carry yourself. It’s a matter of putting yourself in the moment and learning to take control of your presence. This is a change for many of us who suffer from a case of bad nerves, and therefore let the date slip away slowly as they struggle to make simple conversation. This does not have to be you anymore! As a matter of fact, you can really get to the point of enjoying this date and the person that you are with—thus making the present enjoyable as well as ensuring that the future actually happens!
This probably sounds well beyond your reach, but it’s truly not. The point here is to forget about past mistakes once you learn from them. Make this first date awesome and win them over by showing them that you are the person to see again. The more that you focus on a positive mindset, the more that you will enjoy the date—and that second date will be a certainty in no time at all. Here’s how you make it happen and move towards overall dating success.
1. Take the time to get to know this person: The whole point of this date is to get to know each other, so by all means do it. This is your time to talk to one another and learn what you’re all about. By setting aside time to chat with them and really listen to what they have to say, you can be sure that they are a match for you. In addition, this person before you notices that you are something special and therefore wants to see more of you, so it’s a true win-win for a long term dating formula.
2. Be sincere, be genuine, and be yourself: It sounds obvious, right? Why would you go out on the date and be anything but yourself? The problem, however, is that many of us try to be something that we’re not. It may be out of nerves or it may be out of a need to impress. If you want to get to the second date, though, then you just have to be sincere and be yourself. The sooner that you can realize this, the more that it will benefit you and your dating life moving forward. They will really like this and want to see more of you.
3. Have fun with one another and plan the date in a venue that allows for that: Plan your date at a place where you can really talk to each other and enjoy the evening. This could be bowling or dinner and a movie, but the point is to find some common interest or way of facilitating the conversation. If you can just enjoy this date and live in the moment, then it benefits both of you. Be sure that you don’t plan it at a place that prohibits this, for location truly is everything.
4. Leave something to the imagination so there’s a viable reason to meet up for that all important second date: Don’t lay all your cards on the table, for a little bit of mystery can go a long way. Leave something for the second date, both in details that you share about yourself and also in sharing yourself physically speaking. This will intrigue them, cause them to respect you, and also ensure that they want to see you again too.
Though the first date can be tough, these tips will help you to win them over. You can enjoy the date, but, more importantly, move to the second date and that means that there are many wonderful things ahead for you here.