Want to know how to make a date go bad with a woman? Worse yet want to know what you may have said wrong to make previous first dates end in disaster? Women are very into the emotions and good conversation, and if you say the wrong thing you are going to make her run for the hills. Sure you may think that your comments or questions are innocent enough, but the wrong thing can mean that she’s no longer interested in you.
The first date is stressful enough for both parties, and so you want to be mindful of what you say. Sure this may mean that you have to weigh your words a bit, but it’s well worth it if you end up wowing her instead of pushing her away. Though some things are clearly off limits like asking her weight, some things that seem innocent enough can truly be the kiss of death. Knowledge is power here and this can help you to master the first date!
Don’t Fall Into These Traps If You Want To Impress Her
If the first dates don’t typically go well for you or if you want to impress this woman you’re going to date, then consider these comments or questions. These are the absolute “no no’s” in terms of what you should never ever say to a woman. Avoid them at all costs, and find a gentler and more positive way of talking to her.
1. “Hey do you want to go back to my place?” Even if you think that you’re getting the “vibe” do not try to seal the deal on the first date. Even if she’s into that, you don’t want to come across as too pushy or she’ll be turned off. The first date is a time to get to know each other, not to have a one night stand. So if you’re on the first date take the time to talk to her and build up a rapport, don’t try to go in for the sexual component because it’s way too soon. Women hate this!
2. “You’re actually smarter than you look!” You might think that this is a compliment because you’re actually telling her how beautiful and smart she is, but it’s really a put down in her mind. You’re saying that she never looked smart and women don’t want to be told that. Even if she’s the whole package, don’t give back handed compliments. They will never end well and she will be offended, and that will kill your chances of a second date or anything else.
3. “It sounds like you have a lot of baggage from your past.” There’s a variety of different ways to deliver this message, but the key point is to avoid focusing on her past. It happened, she’s probably learned from it, and the first date is not the time to focus on it. This type of statement can be particularly troubling and damaging if she has been married, has kids, or has something significant to her in the past. Be very careful and choose your words here, and if unsure then avoid discussing the past on that all important first date.
4. “I’m not really into relationships, but we can see where things go.” She’s on the first date with you because she wants to see where things go. She is testing you as much as you are testing her, so don’t bring up a fear of intimacy or anything of the sort. Even if you’re not a “relationship guy” the first date is most certainly not the time to discuss it. Try to keep things positive and lighthearted, and don’t go in with preconceived notions. If relationships didn’t work for you in the past, now is not the time to bring it up.