It’s so common that we all have a tendency to try to be somebody that we’re not when we wish to impress. We want to put our best self forward and so we tend to embellish things a bit in an effort to show off so to speak. We so want to win over this date before us, and therefore we tend to get carried away with what we share about ourselves. This can be a huge mistake and ultimately end in dating sabotage!
Sure, you may be on your best behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you have to be somebody that you’re not. The right person is going to ultimately love you for all of your traits, good and bad. So though you may wish to pretend that you are somebody else, this will always end badly. This is your time to shine and embrace who you are and what you’re all about.
Being Somebody You’re Not Will Never End Well
If you still need convincing, consider what may happen down the road if you try to be somebody that you’re not. Think of why this matters on the first date and beyond, and it will help to solidify that being yourself really does matter. Here are some reasons why being yourself really can pay off on that first date.
You should be confident and embrace who you really are
This is your chance to really feel good about who you are. First and foremost a positive mindset helps and confidence just so happens to be very attractive. Don’t try to hide who you are or what you’re all about, but rather bring it front and center. Though this may seem counterintuitive, celebrate what you’re all about and let this person get to know you for every bit of it.
If you wish for things to progress, they need to see the real you for all that you are
The first date is a true springboard onto the next step in the process, so keep that in mind. If you want to move onto the next date or even beyond that then you have to own up to who you are. This is your chance to take the initiative and let it all come out. Then you can tell if this person is the right match for you, and they can tell the same about you. It really works out.
The truth will come out and that may end things immediately
If nothing else consider what will happen down the road if you try to be somebody that you’re not. It will always come out and will make you look like a liar, or that you’re covering something up. Don’t fall into this trap because it works against you and a potential future with this person. Plus it comes across as very dishonest and that never ends well anyhow. Good things come from being yourself!
You have everything to feel good about, and the right person will appreciate you for all that you are
If you can change your mindset and embrace what you are all about, the other person will pick up on that. It will make them pay attention to learn what makes you such a great catch. The right person is going to ultimately love you for all of your traits, good and bad. So remember that and let the first date be your initial opportunity to introduce yourself for everything that you are. When it’s a match, this will all be a good thing in the end anyhow!
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